I was talking about this the other day with someone. I think it's because Society dictates that any attention outside of a marriage is "cheating" no matter if it's from having friends to reaching out to someone else. There is a fear that if you can't be everything to the other person then there is something wrong.
This person was commenting that they went to a Christian couple's program and the leaders basically said that it's wrong for people to have desires when they reached the amount of children they want. Promoting masturbation, porn (even if it's tame), and fornication (oral stimulation, petting, etc) is against gods will. The Christian Marriage therapist that they went to suggested that if one person didn't want to have sex -- then they need to find other interests which were church approved. And this person reinforced that Sex is bad, sex is evil, sex will harm ---
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Date: 2005-09-08 01:34 am (UTC)I was talking about this the other day with someone. I think it's because Society dictates that any attention outside of a marriage is "cheating" no matter if it's from having friends to reaching out to someone else. There is a fear that if you can't be everything to the other person then there is something wrong.
This person was commenting that they went to a Christian couple's program and the leaders basically said that it's wrong for people to have desires when they reached the amount of children they want. Promoting masturbation, porn (even if it's tame), and fornication (oral stimulation, petting, etc) is against gods will. The Christian Marriage therapist that they went to suggested that if one person didn't want to have sex -- then they need to find other interests which were church approved. And this person reinforced that Sex is bad, sex is evil, sex will harm ---
It's frustrating.